If you are looking for the best living environment for your senior loved one, you may know that Nancy Watkins can provide the help you need to feel confident about your decision. For those of us with parents, grandparents, or other loved ones already residing in an assisted living facility, it can sometimes be difficult to make conversation when we visit or call. We may feel like “small talk” is the safest choice, but it can be wonderful to hear love stories from earlier generations.
If you haven’t heard Aunt Sal tell about the day she met Uncle Stu, why not ask how they came to meet and fall in love? Grandpa has told war stories, but have you heard about the letters he wrote to Grandma when they were courting? Asking a senior loved one about their most exciting travel adventure with their spouse, or learning about the most romantic gift they ever gave or received can bring a new layer of understanding to the family.
If you have a loved one with dementia or Alzheimer’s disease, sometimes distant memories are the clearest. However, if you are concerned that asking about the past would be traumatic for the person, why not inquire of the facility’s Director, counselor, or nurse about what topics might be best. Asking your grandmother about her favorite flower might lead to a new conversation about a favorite garden, or a bouquet she received from a sweetheart.
All holidays can be delightful or bittersweet, depending on one’s life experiences. But learning our family history enriches us all, and you might be surprised about the things you can learn when you only take the time to ask.